So I was reading an article on friendships, on the typical number of friends people have and on how this number changes when romance enters the fray.
So the article said that the typical number of core friendships was five. This was people that a person saw at least once a week and went to at times of crisis. The next layer out was people a person saw about once a month and would be upset about should something bad happen to.
Apparently, the key to the strength and emotional engagement in a friendship is the frequency of interactions with that person. When a romantic relationship with a new person occurs then there is less time for these interactions so they suffer and possibly end.
So, I reckon, if you don’t want your core friendships to suffer then you need to date someone within that group (gender issues allowing). But what if they all already are in relationships? Furthermore, if they are, then how come the core friendship didn’t suffer in the first place? Unless… unless they secretly pushed you into the outer layer and only actually think about you when you break a toe. That would explain the non returning of calls. Those bastards.
Deadly, if I've told you once I told you a thousand times I like you but not in that way!
ReplyDeleteFive different people in a whole week? That you know? I hardly see five people in a week that I don't know. I might see one person I know in a month, and then I won't be ready in time. Friends are much better unseen. And one should be upset if something bad happens to them? What, all of them?
ReplyDelete'Friends are much better unseen'?
ReplyDeleteThat's it, I'm defriending you on Facebook!
Er, well I would if I used it and knew how to do that and who you were...